Navigating through this unexpected journey of grief

Navigating through this unexpected journey of grief

Navigating through this unexpected journey of grief

Death and grief has reared their ugly face!

For sure, death is inevitable yet, when it strikes, it never fail to leave us reeling in its intense and overwhelming mess of emotions. Its sting is indescribably painful. It brings with it a paralysing grief that spreads its toxins easily and rapidly, leaving nothing untouched.

I know some of you have experienced the enormity of its weight. A heaviness that sits on the chest, making every breath a struggle.

Grief slows life down to a stand still as its fog clouds our vision and the clarity of our mind. There is an all-consuming darkness that descends on us, threatening to steal our joy and our hope. Each day it shouts above everything else, as it repeatedly tells us there is simply no way out of its iron fist. It is only as we journey through that we realise that it’s not true.

No one need to tell us life will never be the same again. It is a new reality that comes like a kick in the gut.


That kick in the gut came to our family just a few days ago. My husband’s youngest sister lost her husband unexpectantly to a massive heart attack. This comes after less than 3 years of marriage and to a husband who was only just forty. This pain is deep and fierce, spreading itself like an unstoppable shock wave. I cannot imagine the dense fog our Sis is attempting to navigate through. This tragedy has now left an enormous hole in her heart that will not be filled anytime soon.

“The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18

There is only one Light that can penetrate this darkness. There is only one Comforter who can wipe away her tears and bring healing to her heart. I know she does not grieve without hope, yet this grief is fresh and this journey has only just began. My husband and I are praying to our heavenly Father to be her light in the dark and her comforter as she navigate all the twists and turns of this dark road. This unexpected journey she did not choose.

“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea.” Psalm 46: 1-2

As our family tries to comprehend and come to terms with our grief, I choose to express this pain through the following words.


I could only envision you in my minds eyes.
And I closed my own hoping what I heard could be erased.
The high pitch of your voice, expressed fear all too real.
I wondered Lord, how can this be!
Say it’s not so, it wasn’t his time.

So far away, my heart reached out to yours.
If it had arms Sis, it would enfold you in embrace.
But useless I felt, unable to give comfort.
I wondered Lord, how can this be!
Say it’s not so, it wasn’t his time.

Oh Lord their journey has only just began.
Young in their love, so much still to discover.
They had hopes and dreams yet to unfold.
We are left to wonder, how can this be!
Say it’s not so, it wasn’t his time.

The road ahead seems so dark and dismal.
How does one walk alone where there were just two.
The pain is overwhelming, surely this can’t be real.
Oh please Lord please, how can this be!
Say it’s not so, it wasn’t his time.

We want to scream “Lord how can this be”.
We want to cry out “Lord it wasn’t his time”.
Tears that won’t cease, too many unanswered questions.
Why Lord why? Please tell us why?
Say it’s not so, it wasn’t his time.

Not even close to understanding this loss
We can only hold on to the Father’s love.
With arms open wide, His love is immeasurable.
Lord hold us close, Lord console our hearts.

We ask for courage and we ask for your strength.
We ask for hope through these dark, heavy steps.
Pleading dear Lord, let grief loosen its grip.
Heal her broken heart, light her path again.

“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” Matthew 5:4
Maybe you too are walking this painful, unfamiliar road. I pray that the arms of our loving Father will bring peace and comfort to your heart. This is the time, more than ever, we need to trust God in the darkness where he only can see. I, personally am learning to trust God beyond this pain. I pray you will too.
May we allow him to be our hope as we journey by faith in Christ. God bless!

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About Lureta

Jesus lover. Wife, mother, RN, blogger. Pushing past fear on the journey to encourage and inspire others to pursue our extraordinary God.

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  1. Oh Lureta, my heart breaks for your sister and family. You honored her loss with such a beautiful poem. May God surround you with the peace only He can bring, and walk you though this grief in hope, faith, and love.

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