A free moment to sit and catch your breath.
It has been a chaotic morning. Actually, come to think of it, so has many of your mornings. It didn’t help that you slept through the alarm today. If only you had made the kids’ lunch before going to bed like you wanted to. But then if you had, you wouldn’t have had time to fold that extra load of laundry. And you wouldn’t have been able to put the finishing touches on hubby’s shirt.
No point crying over spilled milk, literally. The clean up cost you the last few precious minutes you had and echoes of your irate tone was now swirling in your head. The kids, unfortunately, on the receiving end of your outburst, ended up missing the bus which meant you having to drive them to school.
As you drive by the grocery store on your way back home, you remembered you are out of eggs, bread and oh, yes! Milk!
But sadly, there’s no way you can pop in now. One quick glance in the car mirror reminded you you’re still in your pyjamas and neither your hair or your teeth saw a brush this morning. Arriving back home you venture on a one man scavenger hunt. It seems the floor is covered with every piece of toy the kids own. The final treasure was the piece of Lego that almost bore a hole in the sole of your foot as you headed off to the kitchen.
Now, two hours later, with the clean up complete and the house in some sort of order, you collapse on the sofa with that blessed cup of coffee. Just one sip down and you slump into your seat, lips quivering. You can’t stop the stream of tears that quietly made their way down your cheeks.
You are one tired Mom and you are suffering from utter exhaustion!
It’s not even from lack of a good night’s sleep although, if the truth be told, you are running short on that too. But there is this all-consuming ache that seems to generate from your very soul. You are running on empty, the gas gauge well pass “E”. You are feeling completely spent and you have nothing left in you to give. Your joy is gone and you are feeling defeated. To make matters worst, the feelings of guilt weighs heavily on your heart. After all, are you not a mother and a wife.
It is no secret how you arrived at this destination; the crossroad between neglect and burn out. Busy taking care of everything and everyone else, paying attention to your own needs was the last thing you had time for. Loving your family beyond anything else, you have basically sacrificed your well-being and peace of mind for their needs and comforts.
But, what if taking care of you meant being a better you? Not only for your self but for everyone else?
“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the over flow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.” Eleanor Brownn
Are you willing to quiet the whisper of false guilt and dispel the fear of being judged? Taking time to love and nurture your self is nothing to feel guilty about. Not only do you need time for you, but you deserve it and you are most definitely worth it.
Choose you too and make yourself a priority.
Personally, I believe self-care is most times accomplished best when we are alone but can also include time with friends. Write on your calendar “Me time” and make an appointment with yourself for you. When you start making yourself a priority you will make the effort to find the time for you.
The following ten things could end up making a huge difference to your physical, emotional and spiritual well-being, when put into practice.
- Take a break. Have an afternoon nap or read your favorite book.
- Have an aromatic bubble bath in candlelight and soak those achy muscles.
- Go for a walk. It’s calming and there is much in nature to see and enjoy.
- Put on some music and connect with Holy Spirit through worship.
- Start a personal journal. Writing down your feelings and emotions might help you process them better.
- Every day write down one positive thing about yourself and stick it on the bathroom mirror or fridge door. Anywhere you go frequently, to remind and encourage your self.
- Buy a matching bra and panty set in your favorite color, make it a sexy pair and wear it anytime.
- Meet up with a girl friend and go for coffee or lunch.
- Even if you are not going anywhere, take time to brush your hair, put on some lip gloss and wear something decent.
- Most importantly, develop the habit of spending time on a daily basis with the Lord. An intimate relationship with Him will help you get a better understanding of who you are and keep life in perspective.
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your soul.” Matthew 11:28-29
Honestly, taking time for you doesn’t mean the loads of laundry will get done on its own or a dish fairy will magically appear after supper. The work will still be there but you will be able to view it from a different, maybe even healthier perspective.
Your body and mind will feel refreshed and rejuvenated. As you spend time with God, you will learn how to rely on his strength instead of your own. You will also learn how to allow Holy Spirit to direct you, throwing off the unnecessary burdens and finding time to focus on the more important stuff. Learning to prioritize is of utmost importance.
Believe me, your hubby and kids will love you for it. Yes, less crabby and less yelling. But most importantly, you will love your self for it. And ladies, we need to love our self. Hmmm….self-care. It could make such a significant difference.
“Toil without song is like a weary journey without an end.” H. P. Lovecraft.
Dear weary Mom. I know you well because I too have been a weary mom.
P.S. Stop comparing your self to the other mamas. They have their own issues to deal with.
Come on dear friends, let us journey together by faith today. God bless you!